
Quick 9 for Personal Growth through Golf

Golf has always been a part of my life, I remember going to the driving range since I was young or driving the golf cart for my dad as he played. After years of learning golf on my own I joined The First Tee in sixth grade. I didn’t get really serious about golf until after I made my high school’s golf team my freshman year. Ever since then golf has just been a big part of life.
I plan on going to UW to study computer science and cyber security and maybe play club golf. (I actually just turned my applications in today). After college I plan to work at a big tech company and maybe start my own company.
A big role model in my life would definitely be my dad. He is always the one that teaches me right from wrong, makes sure I use please and thank you, and address everyone by sir and ma’am. He’s also my golf buddy, whether it’s just a muni course like Jackson Park or a world class golf resort like Bandon, we always enjoy playing with each other…well, most of the time.
My favorite golf memory was when I found out I had made my high school’s varsity golf team my freshman year. The two rounds of golf I played during tryouts felt like my worst rounds ever. A few days after try-outs we had left for Oregon. I was constantly checking my emails that day, refreshing every five minutes until I saw the email. We were driving down the freeway somewhere between Seattle and Portland when I had gotten it. I opened the email… and to my surprise, I had made the team. I never felt such a sense of accomplishment before that.
Golf is the best sport for having fun and learning crucial life skills. Period. That’s it. That’s my article…What? You want me to explain myself? OK. I will give it my best shot!!!
Dealing With Challenges by Coach Val Patrick
I consider myself an upbeat, confident, patient and positive person, and I am the “glass is half full” personality. What I have learned over the years about challenges is that they come to us and through us – through many streams and in many ways.
Growing up for example, at age 15 my dad was diagnosed with cancer. He was out of work for over a year. That presented many challenges for a family of seven people to figure out how we were going to survive. Where would we get food if dad wasn’t able to work? How would my mom take care of all of us if my dad did not survive?
I am the oldest of 5, and I had plans to go to college and play on a college [golf] team. No one in my family had gone to college – I was the first. Would I be able to go if my mom needed me? Golf was everything to me – literally. I found myself clinging to my clubs for comfort knowing my dad taught me how to play. What would I do without him?
That was a HUGE challenge and decision facing me, so my dad and I talked a lot. He said he wanted me to go to college and not worry about what was going to happen at home. This was as important for him as it was for me. He is the one that put a club in my hand when I was 8 years old. He wanted to see me play college golf.
Fast forward to High School graduation, soon it would be time for me to leave for college in Miami Florida, a LONG way from home! Dad and I agreed I would go in August. He said this is “YOUR TIME.”
“YOU” have worked so hard for this opportunity, and he was right. Now I had a choice: go or stay home. I wanted to continue to make him proud. And so, it was – I left for Florida driving my car with a friend (because the trip would be too much for him). Saying goodbye was awful. “What if…what if?” kept going through my head. He said “it’s okay – you go play like you know it. Show the other girls on the team that Michigan has good golfers too! Not all good golfers come from Florida!” We laughed and he gave me a big hug. I got in the car (packed with everything it could hold) and while backing out of the driveway, my mom and dad waving, I hoped this would be the scene when I came home for Winter Break – that he would still be around.
It was close to Thanksgiving and mom called “Val, can you come home?” I said “yes.” She said “good, I think your dad needs to see you.”
Back then, flying was a big deal for a kid. I flew from Miami to Detroit, my uncle picked me up and we drove 75 miles to our home in Jackson.
Dad had a million questions and was short on energy. I told him how the college team was doing and how the coach was outstanding. He was happy, that meant everything.
Dealing with challenges: they do not care how old we are, how smart we are, what we are wearing, or who we know. Challenges are opportunities that help us reach deeper within ourselves to bridge relationships or circumstances that are far out of our control. I have learned it is important to have the patience to understand the situation (no matter what it looks like) and negotiate the ‘what-if’ scenarios with other people that may be involved, or at times with your own inner voice. Challenges will always be a way of life, just like what we are all facing now with the monster of all challenges – mitigation of spreading a virus – and it feels like everything has stopped and that time is the force in control, not us.
Stay positive, live positive and face challenges with an open heart and mind. This is my experience: be patient. I practice patience. Breathing exercises and meditation are amazing tools for the heart and mind. When a person has patience – you can overcome challenges.
Patience is a wonderful gift from the universe.
Coach Ben Bergner has been a rock star with The First Tee of Greater Seattle since 2013! Get to know him as he shares how he got his start in the game of golf, his insight, experience and advice for young players!
“I really like golf and I like to have fun with whatever I am doing,” Coach Ben says. “I have been hitting golf balls since I was 2 and have been playing competitively since I was 8, and it is really just about enjoying yourself. That’s all golf is about.”
Thomas after his selection meeting, with uncle (left) and First Tee Program Director Evan Johnsen (right).
Thomas in a Birdie level class in 2015, at Willows Run Golf Complex.
Thomas in his Ace level class in 2019, at Aldarra Golf Club.
Austin demonstrating his coaching skills at Willows Run Golf Complex in 2018.
Austin always volunteers to post the daily lesson on the class board. With that handwriting, no one objects!
Austin playing on and coaching his PGA Junior League team in 2016.
I was inspired to create this mural because artwork is an excellent tool to brighten up an environment. Several years ago, a First Tee coach planted the seed of “Wouldn’t it be cool to paint a mural at Crossroads?” I loved the idea, but the project seemed really big at the time. As time went by the idea stuck in my head, and I just had to figure out how to make it work. While measuring the workspace, the idea came to me of painting the mural on a large sheet of plywood as opposed to the wall itself. This made the project seem more realistic that I could paint it at home instead of spending 50+ hours at the pro shop to paint. I have always loved to paint big, and I thought the bigger the better for this project.
How did you get interested in art?I have been interested in art since a young age, and I began to paint when I was about seven years old. I have been inspired by many artists along the way, and love to attend art festivals and galleries. In my work I merge realism with my imagination and add my own twist of brighter colors that make the subject pop.
How are painting/art similar to golf?Art and painting are similar to golf in many ways. Both art and golf involve visualizing the desired outcome and being creative of how to execute the plan. When I hit a shot into the lip of a bunker or under a tree, I must be creative of how I want to play the shot. This is similar to how creativity plays a big role in the planning of a painting.
What is your hope for the legacy of this mural?My hope for the legacy of this mural is that it will inspire other kids to tackle projects or goals they think too big to accomplish.